My life experience has taught me that people can influence us, with or without intention, to become the best or worst versions of ourselves.
Ultimately, the responsibility of who we choose to be in this world lies with us.
For some of us, there comes a time when we can no longer depend on our past to excuse our present or future circumstances, but pretending that our past did not affect us is no solution either.
I have learned that hurt can be healed and transformed into power, but it often takes courage, and someone trustworthy to support and encourage you along the way.
I have learned that asking for help is a beautiful thing because when you ask the right people, you are reminded that you are worth it. And that just because people don't help you, it doesn't mean you're not. It might just mean that they are caught up trying to deal with life too.
I have also learned that empathy is one of the most incredible tools, and in my experience, one of the most underutilized. My philosophy is that we all have a story to tell. Some of us get stuck in those stories and can't let go. Some of us will do anything we can to keep those stories to ourselves; and some of us don't think our story is worth hearing, but those perspectives might be what holds us back from healing and moving forward. If any or all of this rings true for you, I invite you to share your story with me.